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Will You Marry Me?  Will You Sign this Marriage Contract???

Ah, romance.

Long dinners, holding hands, enjoying each others company.

A romantic weekend away – just the 2 of you – long walks, intimate meals, drinks by the fire.

Flirting, hugging, kissing…

Chocolate, flowers, exchanging small gifts.

Ah, romance.  Talk about the future – commitment, children, sharing your life together – forever and ever.

BUT,

Did you know that 38% of all marriages end in divorce, according to Statistics Canada?

Yes, it was higher in the 80’s – when it peaked beyond 40% – but it is still relatively high.

In over 35 years of practice, I often hear couples – or at least one individual in the couple – have some questions, concerns and reservations about the upcoming nuptials.

These include:

  • “My grandparents were high school sweethearts and were married for over 60 years before pops died. They trusted each other and it worked out fine.”
  • “Why bother? Neither of us own a home and we each still have student loans, credit card debt. Plus, I work on contract and she is still in school.
  • “You bet I trust her. Yes, her first marriage sounded a bit difficult – but her ex said that he will cover all expenses for her 2 children until they are adults. Why should I worry about them???”
  • “I know – he has THAT brother – who has never worked a day in his life, and is still supported by their mother. BUT it’s not my problem – she promised me.”
  • “It is so expensive.”

I get it.

And many times, things work out just perfectly.

The couple get married – and stay married – “Until death do us part”, as the saying goes.

Life is unpredictable.

Accidents, illness, job loss, family breakups – a lot can happen, and sometimes, we can truly be caught off guard.

During the COVID pandemic, we have all witnessed the stress this has taken on personal relationships.

Some couples break up, some need counseling, and some only need a walk around the block to cool off, since life is a bit crazy right now.

Can you imagine asking your fiancé to sign a marriage contract?  Will he or she call off the wedding?  Will he or she ever trust you again?  Does he or she believe that you are not committed to the relationship?

I wanted to let you know that our firm, with over 35 years of experience in developing Marriage contracts and cohabitation agreements.  We have a seamless, contactless system in place.

  • Step 1 – Take the first step and reach out to me, for a no charge, 15-minute consultation.  We can do this over the phone, via text or virtually.
  • Step 2 – If you are ready to move forward, we will send you a questionnaire which asks a variety of questions that you need to answer.
    You may want to speak to your accountant, financial advisor, business partners – or anyone else who knows the truth about your finances – now or in the future.
    During this step, please feel free to reach out to me personally – if you have any questions or need clarification on any of the questions.
  • Step 3 – I prepare a DRAFT copy of a Marriage Contract or Cohabitation Agreement.  With your feedback, a final copy of the document is prepared.
  • Step 4 – You sign your document, which must be witnessed.
    During COVID, this step can be done virtually in accordance with Provincial regulations and The Law Society of Ontario.
  • Step 5 – Your future spouse must obtain Independent Legal Advice (ILA) so that he or she is properly advised of the contents of the Agreement and his or her legal rights and responsibilities.
  • Step 6 – Peace of Mind.  For you, for your fiancé, for your future.
  • Step 7 – Get back to focussing on your wedding outfit, your guest list and the awesome music, so you can dance the night away, on YOUR special day!

Darrel Hotz, Signature